Sub-conscious reasoning, leads to choices - a real life story

 

 

It was somewhere around 2003-05, when I had taken my leave from job and gone home for regular vacation and this time, I had planned to buy gifts for my family members, locally.

I told so to my parents and 2 brothers, who were all respectful of my idea and agreed to join. In a day or two, we all went to a popular shopping area in the city. As both my brothers, preferred branded clothes, and had a preferred store as well, nothing else would work-out for them, so we did their shopping from a multi-brand shop, as they chose.

 

But, when my brother started selecting ready-made clothes for papa from the same shop, I denied purchasing from there. Loudly & emotionally, I suggested that we go to our regular, cloth shop of olden times, buy material and then get it stitched by a tailor.

There was a moment of shock, followed by an awkward silence by everyone around, that time. However, as I seemed adamant and it was a gift, from me, my family members said nothing, and agreed to my wish.

 

I could not explain or even understood clearly, myself, as to why, I preferred it that way, but it just felt right, then.

However, now I know……why I chose to do so!

 

Not because branded was expensive, no, money was not the criteria while choosing my father’s gift and the difference would not be much either.

I was not considering health point-of-view, this aspect was not known to me, back then.

I was not dis-respecting my father or making him adjust, just because he would agree, anyways, No.

I did not think he deserved less either, how could I…..

 

The real reasons for my choice were –

-          To avoid papa from feeling awkward or less about himself, actually! I had noticed, ready-made clothes, never fit him properly. He seemed conscious of his bulging belly and remained uncomfortable in such dress-up, all the time as he kept adjusting such clothes, often. 

      Tailored clothes selected specifically for him (paired-up pant & shirt), fit him well. He seemed comfortable and felt normal in carrying himself, well. 

I     In general, I had preference and higher opinion for proper tailored dresses, as compared to ready-made, general-size, which had some or the other fitting issue, most often.

 

-          And more importantly, because papa looked different in those branded clothes and I thought, he felt the same strangeness about himself, too. He did not look like my father, from memories, the same simplistic person, government employee and caring father, as he had always been.

 

The clothes stitched by tailor, as he had always worn, made him look simple & soulful. This helped me remember my papa, who came back from work or dressed up well & visited my school, sometimes. Those special days became fresh for us, again, and that was so very important for me…. That, I realize, now, was one main reason.

Yes, it was with such deep & caring thoughts, that I had chosen to go for non-branded clothing for papa, on that occasion.

When I pondered on that incident recently, many lessons became evident to me, stating a few below:

Remember, everything you did in the past, was for a good reason, the best and most sincere choice, possible, in that moment.

 

If you look at it now, or from another person’s eyes, a different decision may look right to some people, but the truth is, what you did was just perfect at that time, in those circumstances and for who you were, then.

 

This holds so true for others and their decisions, too, as we are all similar souls after-all. Everyone is trying their best and making decisions, which seem righteous to their sub-conscious mind, at that time, as well.

 

Would you please, pause for a moment and allow yourself to accept every experience from your past, today?

Let us acknowledge all good intentions hidden deep within those choices, of the past, with gratitude. 

This was probably, missed-out, at that time.