Parent conversation with child - mindset guidance

 

 

Highlights of Telephonic conversation of 'Swaadhin Wellness Org' with an anxious mother, worried about her child's emotional wellbeing, from recent incidents.

Mother:-

“I am very worried about my 6.5 yr old twin girl, who is always comparing herself with her sister and feeling less or upset. 

This issue has increased over time and now it’s an everyday thing. Recently, she has stopped going to swimming classes after the coach appreciated the younger twin for winning, when she couldn’t complete her race due to some problem. She denies going for swimming even after repeat requests, from last few days.

At her school also, her teachers have started complaining, that she doesn’t pay much attention nowadays. She is not responsive for work immediately, as kids do, generally. She needs repeat orders & cajoling for everything, for participating.

What to do about this case? We are clueless and scared to go to a psychiatrist, who may label as some disorder and give medicines to make money. Can you please help?”

Swaadhin Org:-

“What you are telling me is a simple case of sibling competition, which got triggered by some elder person in authority, appreciating or supporting one kid more than the other. This might have repeated, on multiple occasions and hence she is showing her upset. Kids are very small, but she is trying to rebel by not participating as she would normally do or as expected from her.

An emotional wound got created in her mind, due to this mistake by some adult, which needs healing now. She only needs genuine appreciation and motherly touch of acceptance to help her heal.

Regular motherly loving gesture – a caring hug, a genuine pat on the back by a parent, repeated over 4-6 weeks, can diminish this disturbance and then, she shall be normal again.

Once she heals, she can take everything into stride again, so nothing to worry about her participation, which shall easily happen, soon, on its own. However, some time is needed, as of now.

In case, the issue has gone deeper & some symptoms remain even after 6 weeks, then other natural remedies like color therapy can also be added ”





Mother:–

“Thanks a lot, this sounds so good. I shall do as guided. Is the quantity of time we parents, spend with our kids, to be increased as well?”

Swaadhin Org:–

“The quality is much more important than quantity, adding stressed out time doesn’t help at all, so do not worry about this. 

As suggested, give higher quality of motherly affection for a while and that itself, should work magically.”

Mother – 

“That's awesome, shall follow the advise & get back as needed. Thank you so much.”



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